I have a friend who has a wonderful and enlightening philosophy. He believes that we can each carry with us the relationships of our past and still be able to move into new relationships in the present and future. He doesn’t think as many of us do that it is requisite to fully end (and in some cases obliterate) one relationship before a new one is started. Now, don’t get me wrong, we aren’t talking polygamy here!! But he has a rare and unique view that would serve many well. We can let people our of lives, and their behavior out of our experience, while keeping them in our hearts always. You don’t have to stop loving one, in order to love another. What you stop is loving their behavior and loving being with them. You continue to love their essence, but perhaps not who they have become.
This makes it much easier in many ways to move on in life. Since it is too often the getting over someone that gets us stuck. In this philosophy, you don’t have to get over them, but rather let them out of your life, and keep a place for them in your heart, allowing another room in your life and a part of your infinite heart. MG